The Birth of Being

I originally shared this post on face book but it’s one of my favorites so I thought it deserved another go around.  Enjoy, and by the way, this mama rocked her birth!

I had the pleasure of spending the afternoon enjoying the beautiful weather with one of my momma’s who is due very soon. She is no longer energized with the excitement of planning for the arrival of her first child. Her voice, her body the very energy that she exudes is calm and centered. She is a mother ready to bring her child into the peaceful space she has created. Her evolution is beautiful to watch. She has let go of the “doing” and the “learning” that occupies so much of pregnancy and is present in her body, in this moment in her life, she is fully experiencing the “being” that we sometimes feel to busy and tired to embrace. Sitting next to her on her patio with the sun streaming through the aspens is an almost spiritual experience. Pregnant women are powerful, beautiful creatures. It’s hard work growing a baby and damn hard work to give birth to one, women must be as strong as they are tender. Bringing forth another life is something that feels largely taken for granted, lost in all of the medical technology, and the books that eschew the value of experiencing any aspect of pregnancy or birth if it means feeling the slightest discomfort.

Her ankles are swollen after a walk around the neighborhood and she laugh’s about it as she alternates between soaking her dog and her ankles with the hose. Never a complaint. What a joy to be with someone who embraces being pregnant and is looking forward to giving birth. I am content to just be with her in the sacred space she has created around herself and her child. I feel we are sharing an unspoken truth about motherhood, that “being” is as valuable as “doing”. There is no magic formula for getting it right. It already is right. She asks me if I am sure she doesn’t need to prepare anymore for the birth. I assure her she doesn’t, she is ready. She smiles, relieved. “Good, I don’t feel like reading anything else”. I smile back at her, she is settled in, and I believe that it isn’t her reading or yoga that has helped her arrive at this place. I believe that she has accepted her own innate knowledge as a mother. That she has found at the heart of herself everything she needs to know to be a mother. And the answer to most questions as a parent is love. This is actually the answer to most questions as a human; be more loving. She is emanating love, beaming with it, and I hope that she will remember this power when she faces that challenges that most certainly will come, especially as a single mother. It’s a nice reminder for all of us really, myself especially, that we can all go to that place, that center of being, the radiant heart of love and operate from that place. It’s often hard to sustain that centering but that is why God, or the Universe should you prefer that title, places so many wise people and transcendent moments in our paths to remind us of all we are capable of when we open our hearts to love.